29 years here….

Today I turn 29… hundreds of days, thousands of minutes, 29 years of experiences. Over the last couple of months my immediate response has been fear and dread, of the 30’s slowly but quickly approaching. The pressures of being a women in her late twenties, the questions about marriage and children but I feel younger than ever, only interested in new experiences and growing my career, I couldn’t even imagine having kids; so I am left with thinking, whats next for me? I can’t predict it but I don’t know that I want to.

29 years have been a combination of amazing and horrific and I am grateful for all of it because it lead me here, writing to you. I have learned a lot and experienced even more and today I want to break down 29 of those things.

  1. Self-love is the most important love you can receive

  2. Comparison is the thief of joy

  3. What you think your world is, it will become

  4. You do not need closure, stop contacting them

  5. Stop binge drinking, your body will thank you

  6. Meditate as much as you can, it will change your life

  7. Your best friendships will go through hard times, work through it

  8. Always choose yourself, first

  9. Nobody actually knows what they are doing, they are just pretending

  10. Breakups hurt but the healing journey afterwards is life changing

  11. Practice faith in whatever you believe in

  12. Say yes to anything that will lead you closer to accomplishing your dreams

  13. Travel and learn, do it while you physically and mentally can

  14. If they speak badly about others, they speak badly about you

  15. Don’t do drugs, like ever

  16. Boundaries only work when don’t allow people to cross them

  17. Stop rushing, smell the flowers

  18. Therapy is always worth the money

  19. Nothing is that serious

  20. Vaping & smoking is not cool and its way harder to quit than it is fun to do, don’t start

  21. Hold yourself to the standard of the person you want to be

  22. Chase love (not abusive, manipulative love)

  23. Treat your inner child how you would wanted to be treated- buy her ice cream after dinner, play in the sand, collect stickers

  24. Find your why, do everything for that

  25. Help others, always

  26. If they make you feel bad about yourself, they are not your soulmate

  27. Only follow advice from people you admire

  28. Find your community and nourish them

  29. Love is in everything, look for it

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