You Don’t Find Yourself, You Build it
Why becoming who you are takes action, not waiting
Everyone is waiting for the day, the day that everything happens. We find ourselves, the world has colour again and we are finally happy. As if we identify with something hidden waiting for it to be uncovered by something magical and that will be when life is good. And as someone who was waiting for the magic, I also realized that this idea was also keeping me stuck. If you don’t make life happen for you, life will happen to you.
Waiting for life to happen is the reason that life isn’t turning out the way you want it to. You are waiting to find yourself in the noise of everyone else, but the reality is you don’t just find yourself, you build yourself through every little choice to make when nobody is watching, through your routines, and the times you really don’t want to show up for yourself, but do anyways.
Readiness is built through action , not thought.
I feel like for a good majority of my life it was carry the theme of “no its okay, whatever you want” - in EVERY setting. I had no boundaries, and the dreams I had always came after making everyone around me happy and hoping that catering to them, I would find happiness. A full proof plan right? Wrong. You can’t not except to live your life, accomplish your goals & dreams when you live for others, and that starts with setting boundaries internally. If you are living for others and trying to find a way to start 2026 differently here are some things you can start with
If its not a HELL YES, its a hell no. Unless the opportunity is inspiring you, connecting you in a way you want to, or fuelling something inside of you, its a no. Learning to say no will also give your yes’ more power
You owe yourself the same amount that you owe everyone else.
Treat yourself like you switch bodies with your best friend for a week- how would you speak to them? What would you feed them? Would you be doing anything that would disappoint them by not reaching their goals? Probably not- so why are you okay with letting yourself down?
You don’t need to know where you are going or have it all figured it, you just need to start choosing yourself, today in small ways to prove to yourself that you can, that you are worth it.
Thats how you build YOUR life, not someone else’s.
Thats how you are built